Today's Experiment

You can do today's experiment with a journal, a friend, or a coach...

1. Choose any area of your life where you'd like to have a breakthrough, in terms of your results or your experience or both.

Examples:• Work• Family• Money• Sexuality• Spirituality

2. Ask yourself (or have your friend ask you) what would make you feel most alive as it relates to that particular aspect of your life. An easy way to do this is to simply notice your energy as you contemplate or talk about a possibility. Make sure you spend the most time talking about the things you feel most alive talking about.

If you're asking these questions of a friend, watch their eyes and you will actually see them get brighter when they tap into something that really connects them with their aliveness, almost like watching a light go on inside a darkened room. One of my coaches, Gigi Sage pointed this out to me a few years ago and I've enjoyed noticing it ever since!

3. Next, for each life area complete the sentence starter "If I wasn't afraid, I would..." as many times as you can (aim for at least six completions).

Example: (Relationship) If I wasn't afraid, I would...

• be authentic and tell the truth more often
• take time for myself even when my partner may not like it
• make him/her the most important person in my world
• be more open with my desires and affection
• commit more deeply to my partner
• just love them completely without holding back and see what happened.

You can repeat this exercise often, with as many different areas of your life as you can think of changing. I recommend at least once a day, though doing it more frequently seems to accelerate the process. Notice how quickly you experience more freedom, progress, and joy.

For bonus points, develop your sentences using "I am..." and/or "I will..." and/or "Completely in flow, I..."  Words are power and powerful words need to be spoken often.